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Are you the Strong Silent Type?


Sometimes…we need to speak…….the other person may not even realize!

“Her husband praises her: ‘There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!’”  Proverbs 31:28-29

Are you the “strong, silent type”?

In their book The Language of Love, authors Gary Smalley and John Trent tell of a woman who was feeling frustrated because her husband would come home from work each night and not talk to her. Finally, she told him a story about a man who went to breakfast with some friends. He ate a big meal, then gathered up the crumbs and put them in a bag. Later that day he went to lunch with some business associates and ate another big meal. Again, he put a few crumbs in the bag. When he came home that night, he handed his wife the bag of leftovers. Then the woman told her husband, “That’s what you are doing to me. All day the children and I wait to talk with you when you get home. But you don’t share yourself with us. After being gone all day, you hand us a doggie bag and turn on the television set.” The husband said that hearing this hit him like a two-by-four. He apologized, and began to work on opening himself to his wife and family. If you’re the “strong, silent type,” you’ll have to work a bit harder to accomplish this. But it’s worth it in order to have a good marriage. The wonderful qualities that attracted you to your spouse are still there, you just have to look for them and express appreciation for them. Solomon puts it this way: “Her husband praises her: ‘There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!’”  

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